HANDS FREE ORGASM - How to reach that elusive HFO

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HANDS FREE ORGASM - How to reach that elusive HFO

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For the lucky few HFO (Hands Free Orgasm) is easy and they hit the target first time out. The rest of us mere mortals need to learn how to get there. If you have been unable to achieve HFO it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, just that you have not yet found the right combination of factors to make it happen.

So here are a few tips and some advice for males, offered to inspire those who may be struggling to reach that elusive HFO...

For a start you want a good, made-for-play stim box that offers power and flexibility. Personally I could not reach anywhere near HFO until I got my E-Stim Systems 2B. After my first 2B-orgasm (jeez, what a beautiful moment THAT was!) it still took a while to learn how to repeat the experience on a regular basis before my HFO "hit-rate" reached 100%.

The most important thing to remember is that HFO's come from your mind, NOT your genitals. When we stim we are fooling the innate, subconscious areas of our brain into believing we are having sex. Orgasm is an involuntary, psychosomatic reaction to the electro-stimulation applied.

HFO's are not automatic. They get easier to achieve with experience until they become as natural as conventional masturbation, which suggests the key to HFO is relaxation, surrender and understanding your own sexuality. Don't chase after an HFO, just wait until orgasm comes to you. Don't think about it, just allow it happen in its own time. Above all never consider a session that does not end in orgasm as a 'failure'. Keep experimenting and it will work for you, often when you least expect it.

Think of conventional sex. It starts with 'foreplay', moves on to sexual intercourse culminating with orgasm then finishes with 'afterplay', messing around post coitus.

IMHO a HFO stim session should follow that same pattern. Start with a nice, gentle routine or audio stimfile to ease you in, harden you up and get you in the mood. This 'stim-foreplay' should last for 15-20 mins during which your cock will become gently acclimatized to the sensations as you gradually increase the power level.

After that you will be ready to move on to stronger, more demanding stimfiles or high-powered routines. Enjoy them, surrender yourself to them, allow them to do their work. Afterwards you can wind down for several minutes with a gentle file or tone ('afterplay').

Look into how you set yourself up for a stim session because it's a *lot* more important than you think. Sit or lie comfortably. You should be alert and not too tired but also completely relaxed. Avoid too much alcohol and/or drugs. Make sure your bladder is empty before you begin. Dim the lights and remove all distractions, maybe including a computer screen. If you normally watch porn try stimming without it. Make sure you won't be interrupted and that the room is warm.

Focus on the sensations, *not* your stimming equipment. Close your eyes, think nothing but erotic thoughts and let your mind do the rest. Experiment, experiment, experiment!

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So to sum up the key points...

  • HFO's come from your mind, not your genitals.
  • HFO's are not automatic. You learn how to get there.
  • Don't chase after an HFO, allow it to come to you.
  • Follow the same pattern as conventional sex during your stim session.
  • Relax and remove all distractions. Distractions are the enemy of the male orgasm.
  • Focus on the sensations, not your stimming equipment. Think dirty! :)
  • Experiment, experiment, experiment!

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See also... ** How to Prolong Orgasm - viewtopic.php?f=11&t=10916

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Please add your own ideas, experiences and suggestions
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That's a really good explanation, thank you Stimaddict.
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I will try this. It sounds so perfect!
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Good advice. It’s more meditation than masturbation!
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I find it impossible not to orgasm. When we play my partner will use the 2b to force an spontaneous ejaculation, amazingly painful and pleasurable and somehow a very weird experience. The fun doesn’t stop there as unit will remain on, this part is definitely not pleasant. I’m wondering if I would cum again, anyone cum multiple times in on sessions?
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I thought it was impossible and gave up. Then tried some of the milovana challenges and that worked. Yeah the key is to just let it happen, but that can take some time. Also need to saving up for a couple days helps (as it does in general).
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nafnaf0 wrote: Fri Jul 24, 2020 2:13 am I thought it was impossible and gave up. Then tried some of the milovana challenges and that worked. Yeah the key is to just let it happen, but that can take some time. Also need to saving up for a couple days helps (as it does in general).
As well as getting into the right frame of mind, relax, etc, I’ve also found it’s important to be well hydrated too.
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I just had my first hands free orgasm using the 2b after about six months of trying.

It was amazing!

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Firefly wrote: Thu Jul 30, 2020 1:14 pm I just had my first hands free orgasm using the 2b after about six months of trying.

It was amazing!

Hugh
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Firefly wrote: Thu Jul 30, 2020 1:14 pm I just had my first hands free orgasm using the 2b after about six months of trying.

It was amazing!

Hugh
Fantastic! Having achieved it once, you'll find it easier to do it again.
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