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Hello electro-friends,
I have been having increasingly successful experiences with E-Stim for some time now. In the meantime, I regularly succeed in HFO after about 60 minutes if I put my mind to it.
At the same time, I notice, that I am less and less interested in sex with my wife, although I still find her attractive and like to caress her.
I even find manual masturbation less exciting than before.

Has anyone had similar observations? Do I have to choose between e-sex and conventional sex?

Greetings
D.

Deltus1 wrote: ↑Mon Aug 30, 2021 3:23 pm At the same time, I notice, that I am less and less interested in sex with my wife

I don't think it's simply because of estim. Married sexual relationships ebb and flow like waves on the sand. Over time as a couple you go through periods of sexual interest and disinterest. It's just the way it is, hormones and all that. Currently you are driven by a new sexual interest, stimming. It's easier, offers extreme pleasure, it's less demanding and more personal to you as an individual. It's a form of 'autosexuality'. You know exactly what you like and through estim you can selfishly attain that while indulging your wildest erotic fantasies without guilt.

But this does not need to affect your overall relationship with your wife. There is a lot more to a successful, loving relationship than just sex.

I agree there is a lot more to marriage than just. Sex I love my wife to bit she just went off sex so I looked else where and found estim filled the gap for me and I do enjoy it also sounding

People who watch a lot of porn in place of the real thing can suffer in bed and have more difficulty with an an erection and reduced interest in the real thing. I personally went through this for a while to the point it was causing an issue so I gave the porn and estim a break and things returned to normal. I think it's a case of moderation. If there are relationship issues, that's a different story. I found after I stopped, the desire and attraction complete returned. See the link below.
https://www.webmd.com/sex/news/20170512 ... ysfunction

I have just read part of that what just posted and I think I can but my self in that category of porn addiction I anit been watching porn for a few months I think now would be a good time to stop estim and sounding

E-stim and pron never dulled my appreciation of sex with Wifey, on the contrary it enhanced! it - I mixed and matched both regularly with equal enthusiasm. Even after stimming several times a week I still looked forward to getting together with her as often as I could, back then Wifey was open to using e-stim/pron/vibes, etc during our lovemaking too leading to some particularly passionate n' memorable sessions, happy days

Fast forward to today with Wifey's sex drive pretty much nil e-stim/V2k and pron are pretty much my only sexual outlets. I suppose I could ask her to pleasure me and I'm sure she would however for myself lovemaking has to go both ways and despite Wifey being highly multi orgasmic during the majority of our married life (upwards of a dozen O's per session) these days she feels pretty much nothing in that respect so it wouldn't be fair to ask her to participate in something for which she feels zero desire or interest plus with none of the anticipation, that tremble in the hips or shivering passion/feedback coming from her it just wouldn't be the same for me either soooooo! here I am, flying solo with just pixels, electrons and wet sucking/sliding rubber keeping my mind and cock company.

Merry.

Baza wrote: ↑Wed Sep 01, 2021 7:36 pm I agree there is a lot more to marriage than just. Sex I love my wife to bit she just went off sex so I looked else where and found estim filled the gap for me and I do enjoy it also sounding

Same here. This is the case of most people

I've found I put less effort into sex with my wife since my 2B takes me to the wet end with persistence and finesse.

60 yr. old Closet stimmer. Maybe 1 time per month. Tingle / buzz carries over for a couple of days past session, wife will get nailed during that time.
Stim makes me have harder and more frequent unconscious erections for a few days after.
Been married 40 yr. Always great sex. Ebb and flow as typical. Both less horny w/ age & menopause.
Fixed that by putting sex on our google calendar for twice a week w/ notification 8am on day of. When she sees it, says it makes her wet all day in anticipation.
Pretty much insures it will happen.
I do watch porn, and we do watch some porn together prior to and during sex.
Porn for me/us is more of a build up to our scheduled sex rather than leading to masturbation.
Works for us.

I can't personally relate to your situation, I'm sure there are others in the community who have had similar observations or experiences. It's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique, so there may not be a one-size-fits-all answer. It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about your feelings. Communication is key in any relationship, and discussing your concerns together can help you find a balance that works for both of you. Exploring ways to incorporate both e-stim and conventional sex into your relationship could be a great way to maintain intimacy and connection.